Pakistan, unfortunately, is one of those countries, where abuse is very common and most people get away with it. An estimated 5000 women are killed per year by domestic violence, with thousands of others maimed or disabled. But fortunately, now this topic is not much of a taboo and is spoken about openly at least most of the time. Many Pakistani celebrities have also been known to raise their voice and fight against abuse. One of them is Ayesha Omar. The Bulbulay star has always been seen fighting for other underprivileged women.
Recently, she opened up about her love life and her past in an abusive relationship. During an interview on the Frieha Altaf podcast, Ayesha Omar talked about many topics openly. Here is the full interview if you want to watch the whole podcast.
Ayesha Omar talks about how she was in an abusive relationship for almost 8 years. And even worse, she almost got married to the guy too. She says that she mostly and always gets asked about her engagement and or relationship. To that, she answered that her relationship was serious to the point where even families were involved. “It was almost like a baat pakki.” However, the relationship did not last long since it was extremely abusive but she was too in love to realize it at the time.
Talking more about it, she clarified that she did not want to name or blame the guy or the family. She also revealed that the family was really nice and she is still on good terms with them as for the guy she gave a “what’s done is done” look.
Ayesha then also talked about the phase after being in such a relationship. She tells Frieha that it took her a really long time to move on from the relationship because of how invested she was in it. She also talks about how she was also under the very common misconception of how “the girl and her love can fix the problematic guy”. “Mujhe lagta tha that I can fix him, mera pyaar usse theek kar sakta tha.” she said.
The two ladies then talked about how such relationships involve a lot of asking for forgiveness and coming back and then leaving again. Ayesha agreed by saying that her relationship also had a lot of “maafiyan” and groveling. She reveals that she was abused physically, verbally, emotionally, and even mentally. She said that she was verbally abused all the time because it was the person’s habit to generally abuse. So she would be listening to “gaaliyan” the whole day and he would tell her that “main pyaar mai gaaliyan deta hun”, and like most other girls she believed that this was what love was supposed to be like. Until one fine day, she said “no” and left. She has never looked back ever since, gladly.
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